To the Adulterous Woman,

I am writing this to you.

Sometimes you question how you got here. You may even at times justify that you are not doing anything wrong nor did you intend to hurt anyone. You have every right to be happy, to be loved.

If you were to rewind a bit, you weren’t expecting this kind of life. You surely were looking for someone who can love you. You did everything to be seen by the man of your dreams. Pampering yourself with your fine hairstyle, your lotion toned legs, the nail colors, sweet perfume and the fancy dress up. Many women envy your beauty. But there was still something missing. He was still missing.

Then someone took noticed. The flirty looks, the attention, and the fun conversation – you are holding on to his bait. The thrill of that next text message and the oh so looking forward secret date. Your senses say there is something special here. This excited you — walking on the edge and putting your heart out there.

You believed every word he said. His charms and his adventurous spirit snared you. He expressed he had feelings for you. He also openly shared with you that he is a married man. He is unfortunately unhappy being married and then he met you. He felt he was a new man! You sympathized with his situation. How could a man like this be so unhappy? “Surely, I could fill in those needs” you tell yourself. He took care of you when you were together and that was more than enough for you. So you took the next step and decided to pursue this kind of relationship.

But you did not think out all the details in full perspective. The attention, the intimacy was all you dreamed of except that – He will NEVER be yours. As you are spending a romantic time together somewhere, a family is being wrecked. A wife is crying out for love and devotion from her husband simply because you are in the way. Their children are slowly being shattered by a home that has an uninvolved / distracted father because you draw him away from them. But lets flip the coin and look at your situation. How do you feel when he cannot introduce you properly to the people that know him? How do you feel when you have to lie all the time about your relationship or how you have to pretend there is nothing going on? After that short sweet time together, how empty do you feel to come home without him? How long can you wait to see him again? He has informed you, there will be family outings and engagements that simply you cannot be invited. I’m sure you have realized that you have become in the least of his priorities. This alone must tire you down. Then lets look at this man you have fallen in love with. Is this the man you really dream of? If you were to lets say, “marry” him, would the thought scare you that he can “fall out of love” with you and find someone else like he did with his wife? Where is your peace of mind? What kind of integrity does he display when he is with you, with his family, with others? Can you live with all the lies – is honesty in a relationship important to you?

I’m sorry to make you feel uncomfortable. The truth has a way to wake people up and sugar coating it wont help you. The inevitable happened. The secret has been exposed:

Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?”

6They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. 7They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” Then he stooped down again and wrote in the dust.

9When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman. 10 Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?”

11 “No, Lord,” she said.

And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” –John 8:4-11

I want you to know that you don’t have to stay in this situation. For so long you had your eyes focused on the wrong things. In fact, you may have not noticed but there is someone who is crazy about you. He has never stopped pursuing you even if you have not paid attention. He knows your past and even present situation. Despite of everything you have done, not even for a second, has he lost interest in you. He never judged you. He has the highest regard for you. He respects you and adores everything about you. He is calling you to surrender a counterfeit life for the real thing. He is offering you an everlasting love. His name is Jesus. He wants to protect you. He wants to redeem you and is completely willing to pay the price for your sin.

But it takes a real woman to take a leap of faith. You do not have to be afraid. You just need to trust in Him. He wants only the best for you. But you must let go first before you can receive this peace and joy beyond understanding. So Go. Walk. Don’t look back – sin no more.

We’re waiting for you on the other side of the fence. You can do it.


Once the Adulterous Woman now a Woman of Christ